“When my childhood was not okay” I learned about mental health problems through “It's Okay To Not Be Okay”
Korean dramas that clearly talk about mental health issues at the moment. Probably inevitable, the series It's Okay To Not Be Okay, which is trending on Twitter every time a new episode is released. Each character's clues are heavy, but interesting, and there may be parts that match every one of our lives.
Dr. Min - Dr. Benjaporn Tantot, Obstetrician, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Owner of a Baby Stroller Page Describe the problem of the character "Go Moon Young" in detail. And very interesting Let's look at what we can learn from this character. How do life stories as children affect our lives as adults?
(This article reveals some content from this series)
#When my past childhood _ it was not okay.
In the series It's Okay to not be Okay , the story tells of a character with various aspects of mental health problems . Including the origins of the state of the characters in the story is quite clear and understandable.
The heroine of "Go Moon Young" is a woman with personality and temperament. She often uses emotions when doing things for no reason. Without thinking about his heart, our hearts Have mental instability When in a relationship with anyone, they feel shaken and insecure.
There is an episode in the series when the heroine was a child. She has a close friend. But when she saw that her best friend was chatting with other friends as well, she didn't like it. So she went to prank other people. And threatened to order those friends not to mess with her best friend The last one Did not dare to play with her best friend The heroine feels good But it frustrated and frightened her close friends. Finally stopped dating her Various behaviors That the heroine often makes an impact on herself and others
The origin or what makes a person One has the same personality and personality as it is today, actually comprising many factors. Both biological (emotional ground, genetics, nervous system, and brain, etc.) that are inherent. Including parenting Environment that has been seen all my life
Let's take a look at the nature of the upbringing and the environment in which the heroine grew up. The heroine tells one of her childhood stories of home and family.
“I hate this house so much. Well, dad is mad here. As for the mother, it disappeared. Not knowing that it is dead Or just disappear Only father knows If mom comes back again I would be afraid of you. Shortness of breath But after all, Mom is still a mother. "
The heroine's childhood was raised with an insecure bond. Her mother had unpredictable personality and personality. Always accept and reject children according to their emotions. Sometimes it can be very loving or indulgent. But there are severe threats or blame according to the emotions Lack of intimacy and proper care Like the heroine we see in the series The mother forbade the heroine from having close friends. Not giving her a haircut Not letting you go to mingle with anyone My mother always lacks control over herself and does what she desires. Excluding the violent events in which the heroine saw that her father hurt her mother. Later, her mother disappeared from the house. And she understood that her mother had passed away. Since then, there have been many mental health problems , possibly due to my father's brain tumor. Makes the heroine like a child who is deficient in both father and mother at the same time.
The heroine then grew up with a feeling of seeing the inconsistency of her parents. Parents who hurt her emotionally and mentally. Even the closest and dearest people like their parents can hurt her. Parents became people she did not trust. Feelings like this cause the child to grow up in confusion. Unsteady mood It results in seeing other people around that other people are not trustworthy. Pessimism Don't trust anyone
Even the subconscious myself will feel that they have no value. Lack of pride Think we are not good enough to receive love and care from everyone. Even some people like the heroine Will show that he is good like that, like this But it was a simple expression on the outside, deep, she felt lonely, lonely, like in a series where people compare her to Empty cans with nothing on them
So the mood is sensitive, easily angry, you think you are angry. And have low emotional control Unable to build stable relationships with others very easily Who meet, then approach to hold on to the master There are some insecure demanding behaviors that are very May have a non-compassionate appearance May violate other people's rights Immoral (But the doctor thinks that the heroine is not that bad Especially in the latter part In the series it will show that she still misses others.)
One of the things that Go Munyong is fortunate is She met with the male protagonist and the male lead brother as well. Who is a good person and understands who you are Accept her not okay. Make you start to empathize yourself Be sympathetic to others Miss those around you Has a more heartfelt smile
However, the doctor said Is not the only parenting factor That makes a person more prone to mental health problems or personality disorders. Other factors, such as genetics, emotional bases, biometrics also play a role.
But when we know that parenting might play a role. Those who are responsible for the care of children, such as parents, parents should raise the child properly from birth.
It is important that the person raising the child must be mentally ready. Have a stable mood There is a quality time to love and care for the child. Children should get to know unconditional love from their nurturing people, and in addition to love, children must learn what should or should not do. Do not do things that make you and others in trouble. The nurturing person understands and accepts the nature and identity of the child. Understand and listen It is a mental refuge for the child.
When the child grows up properly In the path of life that may not be all right There is an obstacle to affect. Would be like a tree with strong roots If encountered in a raging storm, it will not come off easily.
Even on some days that are not very good Will eventually pass through
